There is nothing quite like the holidays and an upcoming new year to really make a couple look at each other and want to choke the ever loving shit out of your partner communicate the improvements you are both going to make mostly him for the continued good of the relationship. Now most people can probably do this calmly and maturely.... most people are not me. And hell yeah, I can go queen.
Let me take you too the scene. I worked Christmas day, after leaving my parents' home, we stopped home, I started the dishwasher, before going to work, Leaving C to his day. I get home after a 12 hour shift. The counter has literally his breakfast lunch and dinner dishes on it, and several glasses and mugs. Did I bitch? No, I did not. I calmly (yet loudly) emptied the dishwasher. Then rinsed his plates and calmly put them in the dishwasher. Poor C, he really does not have any survival instincts that day as I was closing the dishwasher and said "I could have done that...."
Now let me say, I do the Kitchen shit, because I do all the cooking. So most of the time it is easier for me to do it. BUT when I work a 12 hour shift and you've been sitting on your fucking ass all day, when your realize that the dishwasher needs emptying, but instead you put your dishes on the counter.....
But you get the point. This was not a one off. He actually called me working one day and asked if I made him anything for supper. So, the feeling underapreciated and taken for granted had been building. And I did mention that it would be nice to come home to a meal I didn't have to make, he suggested ordering pizza.
Me? I'm going to let him live, that was my improvement.
Let me take you too the scene. I worked Christmas day, after leaving my parents' home, we stopped home, I started the dishwasher, before going to work, Leaving C to his day. I get home after a 12 hour shift. The counter has literally his breakfast lunch and dinner dishes on it, and several glasses and mugs. Did I bitch? No, I did not. I calmly (yet loudly) emptied the dishwasher. Then rinsed his plates and calmly put them in the dishwasher. Poor C, he really does not have any survival instincts that day as I was closing the dishwasher and said "I could have done that...."
Now let me say, I do the Kitchen shit, because I do all the cooking. So most of the time it is easier for me to do it. BUT when I work a 12 hour shift and you've been sitting on your fucking ass all day, when your realize that the dishwasher needs emptying, but instead you put your dishes on the counter.....
But you get the point. This was not a one off. He actually called me working one day and asked if I made him anything for supper. So, the feeling underapreciated and taken for granted had been building. And I did mention that it would be nice to come home to a meal I didn't have to make, he suggested ordering pizza.
Me? I'm going to let him live, that was my improvement.
Cool! :) Another one lives another day! I can relate although not in the kitchen aspect. Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteGreat improvement Jamiessmiles... it is hard to be in control when you feel people don't appreciate you enough... good job:)
ReplyDeleteI totally relate. My best friend sent me a text asking if I had really left the appartment without any toilet paper, followed by an angry face - mind you there was none when I got there ... the usual me would have bought some, but I decided enough was enough. Several dishwasher incidents similar to what you describe had happened so I was already annoyed. Here was my answer: " No I did not leave the appartment with no toilet paper, I just didn't change anything to the situation. Aside from washing the dishes, emptying the dishwasher, cleaning the fridge, the carpets, taking the trash out and filling up the filtered water. Oh and I guess picking up your dry clean But no I did not touch the toilet paper." She sends back 'lol are you stressed out?" followed by a thank you. My resolution: move out!
ReplyDeleteHehehe. I would have totally bitched. I commend your (forced) calmness.
ReplyDeleteHappy New Years to you and C!
haha i never realized how comical you are... (through all the bitchiness) hihi :-)
ReplyDelete"he really does not have any survival instincts that day as I was closing the dishwasher and said "I could have done that...." = LOLLy!! Serious biz, I nearly spit Mt. Dew outta my nose. Haaaappy New Year Jamie!
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine how you feel as Noel does all of the heavy cooking for us. I did however told him that I will take steps to help in that area.
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