Some times people are exhausting. Now don't get me wrong, I love my best friend. I have literally known him my entire life. His parents and my parents were friends before they even had us. That being said, I have begun noticing the changes. For one thing, he is always at some stage of drunkenness. I don't mean to be a judgmental prick, but if we are going some place he can't drink, he won't go. Now I've always known Jake likes to party. But there are signs that definitely worry me.
How do you tell someone you partied with that he is totally out of control? Should you? Thing is, he and his cunt of a girlfriend, well that is what they seem to do. They get drunk every night.
C thinks I should just stay out of it, but this is someone I have known my entire life. What kind of a friend sees someone headed over a cliff and doesn't shout a warning?
Anyone with any advice?
How do you tell someone you partied with that he is totally out of control? Should you? Thing is, he and his cunt of a girlfriend, well that is what they seem to do. They get drunk every night.
C thinks I should just stay out of it, but this is someone I have known my entire life. What kind of a friend sees someone headed over a cliff and doesn't shout a warning?
Anyone with any advice?
That is tough ground to navigate one, I feel for you. My only advice is to follow what you think is right. Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteThere is no simple solution. No formula fits every situation. One thing is for certain, you can't reason with someone under the influence of any type of substance. Unless you're 100% sure that he's sober, it's probably a good idea to keep silent. If you're on good terms with his family, you may want to talk to a sibling or his parents (but that can also backfire). Regardless, be prepared to lose an intoxicated friend. Hopefully, once he's back in control, you'll have the chance to welcome an old friend on his return. Best wishes, my blogging buddy!
ReplyDeleteThis is a difficult one... it depends on the person and how well you know them... I have certain friends I could say something... others I couldn't. Good luck Jamie :/
ReplyDeleteOuch, that's a hard one. I suppose it comes down to whether you think it's hurting him. If it's just a case of not liking his lifestyle then perhaps not, but if he's hurting himself or causing himself life problems, then you might think about it.
ReplyDeleteI think that because you have known him for such a long time and you referred to him as a best friend, then you should speak to him face to face alone on neutral ground and express your concerns. Be prepared for any reaction! Good, bad or the ugly.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he is just having a good time or maybe he is shouting 'help'.
I would say talk to him but don't bring up the girlfriend. You obviously don't like her, and even if you think she is not helping the situation, bringing her up won't help the conversation. However I am curious about what C said: why does he think you shouldn't talk to him? Any specific reason?
ReplyDeletesit him down and try to have a mini intervention with him
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