Amendment on in NC passed.

Gotta say I was completely shocked.  I mean you hear the shit going on in the states but you do not really believe most people buy into it.  For those of you unfamiliar with the amendment one  “Constitutional amendment to provide that marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State.”


I know, I am not in North Carolina, Not in America. But this amendment really captured my attention because basically, it was not about legalization of gay marriage (regardless of whether this amendment passed or not, same sex marrage will still be illegal), what this amendment did was take away the legal right to challenge the state about gay marriage.  It wrote bigotry into the constitution.  


Less than eight hours later this email was fired off: Since Amendment One has passed when will we get a memo or something that outlines what changes we need to make to our health plan to be in compliance? I recall when the Democrats on the Commission forced the issue and added these benefits for homosexuals that a number of legal experts said it was illegal then – including the City attorney. Now that Amendment one has passed it obviously is illegal to offer this benefit as there is now only one ‘domestic legal union’ recognized in the state.

Prior to the vote most scholars (left and right) said that Amendment One would eliminate local faux ‘marriage’ benefits for homosexual employees. I would cite them but you know them all too well.

Still, I would like to know when the Board can expect information on the changes Amendment One wrought (or are we going to break the law and spend scarce resources on litigation we will likely loose)? 


Yep, the end of benefits for same sex partners, and the next step, any common law partners too?  I am currently insured through my dad.  But with me being the child of a woman he never technically married, I guess in North Carolina I would be next on the chopping block.  But wait.... I could be considered on my partners insurance..... nope.  This does not just hurt gay people, but it was obviously the focus and intended target.


Obama.... you wily politician you.  I do think his coming out in support of gay rights was well timed.  And I am not complaining.  After all, he has a career to think about.  He "came out" on a day where anyone with the slightest bit of caring about equality would be pissed.  Well done sir.  Your timing was impeccable.
   Picture stolen from A of http://andreashealingjourney.blogspot.ca/2012/05/times-they-are-changin.html?showComment=1336726895715#c9043605655041494006

Lastly:
going in a coffee shop, as a door was closing I ran up and grabbed it, the woman in front of me was embarrassed she had not held the door.  "Sorry, I didn't realize you were coming so quick."
Me: "sorry, I'll try harder next time"
She did not get it for a couple of minutes, right around the time she took her first mouthful of coffee.
Priceless.

Another stop Discrimination post

This post may seem a little anti-religion.  I realize I offended some followers who left after my last "anti-religious" post.  Oh fucking well.

This audio is extremely disturbing, but keep this in mind the next time you hear about the side for equality is intolerant of people stating their opinions.

Yes, this gentleman leads a flock.  Quite the embodiment of Christ.  God is fucking love.

Stop discrimination

I was sent this from DCG (much thanks) and it really pissed me off.  More than that I got pissed off at myself, because when reading the story said "Well DUH Catholic School".  Then I realized how brainwashed we are getting with the media portraying those fighting for discrimination to be the ones who are the victims to those mean nasty people seeking tolerance. *Stamp foot* "Stop being intolerant of my intolerance!"  When did I join them?  When did I excuse intolerance because of religion?  As a Catholic School, yes, it is perfectly legitimate to not have someone talking about non-Catholic values.  But his speech was not about or even alluding to the fact that he is a homosexual.  He was discriminated against because he had the nerve to be proud of his loving and committed relationship, and excited on making a permanent commitment to his  partner.  He was told it was because he is openly gay.  If he had hidden the fact he is homosexual it would be okay.

Now I can hear some of you asking, but isn't it okay, after all, it is a catholic school?  But ask yourself, if a woman was teaching in a Catholic school, should it be okay if she gets fired for using birth control?  I dare say most of us would say no.  Hells, the Catholic Church has swept years of child sexual abuse under the rug while the priests, or as I like to call them, perps were still not only conduction mass but lining up alter boys for their new positions wherever they were sent to do God's work.  Yet a man who is is a committed and loving relationship with another man is going to taint the young minds of the graduates?

One of the thing that continually amazes me is that judgement is so much an issue in Christianity.  I know I am no bible guru but isn't judging supposed to be left up to God if you are a Christian, or Muslim, or fuck, any religion really.  Isn't it terribly arrogant to think you know what is in another's heart?  Let alone some supreme being that we are continuously told his goodness is such you cannot fathom it?

So I guess one big question is, how do you know when you are being intolerant of religion or too sensitive?  I guess I personally want to pick another piece out of Leviticus and see if it would be reasonable to say... "Hey on Facebook he said he ate at Red Lobster last night.  That abomination cannot talk to our children."  The funny thing is he could have written on Facebook about him hitting it with a different woman every night and not one word would have been said about it.
So a school chooses this moment to show it's students what they think being Catholic is really about... Hate.

So there is a petition: http://www.change.org/petitions/sacred-heart-academy-mt-pleasant-mi-stop-endorsing-homophobia

Because no school should be telling their students that hate in the name of religion is okay.  JMHO.  I hope you all sign if you agree.

And A big Thank You to DCG.  I would have missed this if you had not brought it to my attention.

And I know I did not make this to a U, fuck it, this was way more important.

"Born this way" or not?

Wow, such a frenzy by, if you will pardon the term, religious nut jobs to scream at science and say no, being gay is a choice.  And that gets up another flood of people saying no.  To me it just crowds the issue.  No doubt as it is intended.  Let's get it off the equality subject and argue as to if homosexuality is a choice or not.  Well, why the fuck does it matter?  Hell, we are never going to be able to prove for 100% that it is not, and, well what is wrong with it being a choice?  Aren't we supposed to be free as consenting adults to make choices about who we love?

Sancitity of marriage.... what's the divorce rate at right now?  54.8% in U.S.  37% in Canada.  Whoa!  Wait you mean legalizing gay marriage hasn't violated the sanctity of all the straights in Canada, how odd.  By the way Canada's divorce rate has dropped from 37.9% in 2004, before legalized same sex marriage.  Obviously gay couples getting married has not sent frenzied heterosexual couples into hysterics.  See, since they made it legal, it really has not become a big deal.  When two people get married it is HUGE deal to them, a pretty big deal to their family, a small deal to other guests.  BUT when two people cannot get married just because they happen to be of the same sex.... well then it is a pretty big deal to a whole lot of people on both sides of the issue.

It just seems like such a waste of energy.  DOMA is going to lose.  Sooner or later same sex marriage will be legalized.  But while they can keep people fighting about it at least politicians don't need to focus on healthcare, tax breaks for their industry buddies, light rate of unemployment, the education system....

That's right... Just keep your eyes on those queers destroying families.  After all, every fairytale needs the bad guys to make the "heroes" look good.

I'm sure you have seen them....

A new FCKH8 video I just wanted to share.

Way to fight the stereotypes

I am always amused when I get called on not "fighting the stereotypes".  I'm gay, and I flame sometimes.  And sometimes I fit the stereotype, and sometimes I don't.  It's funny how I can get reamed out for not being "sensitive" enough (being gay I guess I should be), then get told off for being a shoe aficionado.  Both  amuse me.  I am not trying to live up to or put away any stereotypes.  I am who I am.  I am gay, not the way he is, he is, or he is, but the way I am.  To me being so careful of avoiding stereotypes... fuck I may as well have stayed in the closet.  I am not every queer.  I am no more going to avoid gay stereotypes than I avoid eating fried chicken.  To me, if I am living up to your stereotypes of gay men, maybe it is time to look at why you stereotype those things as gay.  It says far more about you than it does me.
And as for the gay guys out there who don't like how I portray gay, I tell you what, I won't tell you how to do it right, and you don't tell me.  Fuck, boys, we get enough shit in the world, do we really have to be such dicks to each other?

*Puts soap box away*.

Queer, faggot, dyke, homo,

People get so hung up on the words rather than the feeling behind them. I am pretty meh with regards to words, more the feeling behind them. My best friend will refer to me on my facebook as a "raging homo", yet would be the first person at my back if anyone used a slur directed at anyone. I think people get too caught up in the words rather than their actions behind them.
I have found the whispered "homosexual" much more offensive than someone outright calling me a fag. Whispered,even though they are using the P.C. word, implies that there is something wrong with being gay. Like people are afraid to acknowledge it, because it is soooo wrong.
I remember my mom one time talking about how at the playground the one day a woman asked which child hers was. "The one on the slide." "Oh.... you mean the one who is.... um... darker complected..."
"Black," my mom said. "It's okay, he knows he's black." I remember how pissed she was, not because the woman realized my skin colour, but because she was embarrassed to say the word.
Anyway, theseblogs are dangerous spots for me to be, because I am going to become addicted, lol. ANyway, cameacross a big rant today about how gay people should not use these words because it is demeaning ourselves and each other.
I believe to ban something gives it power. To say "this is a terrible word" gives it far more power. Look at the imfamous "N" word. Ridiculous how much hate and fear and pain is poured into one word. Why? Because we gave it that power. We decided it was a bad and terrible and horrible word. We banned books, because even HISTORY had no use for the word. So now we want a whole other group of words with that much power? Really? Any thoughts?