Thursday, August 25, 2011

Way to fight the stereotypes

I am always amused when I get called on not "fighting the stereotypes".  I'm gay, and I flame sometimes.  And sometimes I fit the stereotype, and sometimes I don't.  It's funny how I can get reamed out for not being "sensitive" enough (being gay I guess I should be), then get told off for being a shoe aficionado.  Both  amuse me.  I am not trying to live up to or put away any stereotypes.  I am who I am.  I am gay, not the way he is, he is, or he is, but the way I am.  To me being so careful of avoiding stereotypes... fuck I may as well have stayed in the closet.  I am not every queer.  I am no more going to avoid gay stereotypes than I avoid eating fried chicken.  To me, if I am living up to your stereotypes of gay men, maybe it is time to look at why you stereotype those things as gay.  It says far more about you than it does me.
And as for the gay guys out there who don't like how I portray gay, I tell you what, I won't tell you how to do it right, and you don't tell me.  Fuck, boys, we get enough shit in the world, do we really have to be such dicks to each other?

*Puts soap box away*.


  1. yes my friend ... and femmes aren't gay either. we're just straight girls slummin' it.

    gimme that soapbox! i wanna few words here!

  2. Well said, Jamie.

    You are in charge of YOU!!

  3. I didn't know you were getting haters.

    If that's the case. If not.. then I didn't know assholes were giving you shit for the way you act..


  4. Yes Jamie- well said. Stereotypes are ridiculous.

  5. Andrea, I have to say you probably fight a much bigger fight. If I have to hear "why don't they just date guys" one more time. I feel like saying "Why don't you just date a butch". Well the obvious answer is because they are not gay. Tada!

  6. Very well put! There seem to be stereotypes about everything! The way I see it, I'm Amelia first! Being gay is part of who I am, but it's not all that I am, if that makes sense?

  7. (on my feet giving you a standing applause!)
    BRAVO Jamie!!!