Make it sound like an irrational fear you cannot control. Like a fear of something silly like bubbles or spiders, instead of what it is. Hate. If you hate different races, you are racist. If you have different sexes you are sexist. Hate is not an irrational fear, it is a choice you make. Sure it may be fed to you as a child, but as an adult once you make the choice to follow these hatreds on for the rest of your life or shake loose the prejudices passed on to you by your family.
So what to call it? Gayist? Queerist? How abotu we just classitfy all hate under bigotry. They are all the same thing, not a fear, but a hate based on something a person cannot control.
Wow, this was supposed to come off as something light, and so did not land that way